You don’t have to have it all figured out to begin.

Unlearning is the practice of noticing the patterns, beliefs, and systems we’ve absorbed and choosing what we want to carry forward.

Whether you’re here to reflect, to practice, or to connect, this is your starting point

Your guide to understanding, practicing, and living unlearning.

Do I Need to Unlearn?

If you recognized yourself in several of these patterns:

They may have once helped you cope or stay safe, but now they could be keeping you stuck. Unlearning is about loosening those old scripts and practicing new ways of being — in community, not alone.

Not sure if unlearning is for you?

Here’s a simple way to find out. Here are some common patterns you might be unlearning:

• Overwork & Exhaustion

  You push yourself to burnout, overcommit, or feel anxious when you try to rest.

• Boundaries & Self-Worth

  You feel guilty saying no, tie your value to what you achieve, or confuse being needed with being loved.

• Trust & Control

  You hesitate to ask for help, fear failure or feedback, and try to keep control when things feel uncertain.

• Emotions & Vulnerability

  You silence your needs, avoid conflict, hold back your feelings, or judge yourself harshly.

• Fear of Change

  You stay in situations that no longer serve you, cling to old scripts, or struggle to imagine yourself beyond current roles.

What You’ll Get in the Starter Kit

The Unlearning Starter Kit includes tools and practices to help you begin noticing what’s shaping you and explore new ways of showing up for yourself, your relationships, and your communities.

Unlearning Field Guide

The first chapters of the Unlearning Field Guide, grounding you in the philosophy and practice.

Unlearning at a Glance

A simple, visual map of the framework for quick reference.

Newcomer Guide

An overview of the Steps to Unlearning framework and ways to engage.

Inside, you'll find:

Reflection Cards

Prompts to deepen self-inquiry and spark group conversations.

Register below to get your Starter Kit and learn more

How to Get Started

Step 1 — Download the Starter Kit

Explore the core framework, try a reflection card, and begin noticing the patterns you want to release.

Step 2 — Join an Unlearning Circle

Join one of our weekly, bi-weekly or monthly sessions. You can go deeper in the practice of unlearning, explore new growth areas, and also co-create with us what is next.

Step into an Unlearning Circle — a guided, six-session cohort designed to onboard you to your journey of unlearning.

Step 3 — Go Deeper in Community

See Upcoming Sessions →

Ways to Engage

We’ve designed four types of gatherings so you can participate in a way that fits your energy and curiosity:

Drop-In Practice (Weekly)

⏱ 30 minutes | 📅 Tuesdays at 1 p.m. ET

Quick, grounding sessions to explore prompts from the Unlearning Reflection Cards and build your practice one week at a time.

The Unlearning Room (Monthly)

⏱ 60 minutes | 📅 Once a month

Our collective pause. Each month, we gather around a shared theme — like boundaries, resilience, or belonging — and explore what’s alive for us.

The Unlearning Lab (Bi-Weekly this Fall)

⏱ 60 minutes · 📅 Every other Thursday at 1 p.m. ET

Step behind the curtain. This is where we test emerging frameworks, share what we’re working on, and invite your feedback. A co-creative space where we shape the work together.

Unlearning Circles (Seasonal)

⏱ 90 minutes per session · 📅 6-session cohorts

A guided deep dive into the Steps to Unlearning Framework. Small groups explore inherited stories, release outdated patterns, and practice new ways of belonging. The next Circle begins on October 1st.

Learn More About Sessions →

Unlearning is how we stop repeating old patterns and start building something better.

Our Guiding Principles

1: Care Comes First

Well-being over urgency and performance.

2: Wisdom is Shared

Facilitators hold space—not power. Decisions emerge through listening and collaboration.

3: Begin with Curiosity, Not Perfection

Openness is the only requirement.

4: Frameworks Should Support, Not Confine

Structure serves people — it never controls them.

5: Integrity Lights the Way

Honesty, humility, and accountability guide every choice.