About Us

The Steps to Unlearning began with a simple question:

What do we need to let go of to live, lead, and relate with greater integrity?

Born out of collective learning spaces within the Wasan Network, our early experiments showed a deep hunger for change — not just in systems, but in ourselves. We saw patterns of dominance, disconnection, and fear holding people back, and realized there were few supportive places to release them.

Through co-created circles, pilot workshops, and personal journeys, the Steps to Unlearning framework emerged: a cyclical, story-driven process that helps people reflect, release, and reimagine. It has become a gentle movement. One that invites us to return to ourselves and to each other, with honesty and care.

Mission

The Steps to Unlearning exists to help people and organizations release inherited patterns of dominance, disconnection, and fear, and replace them with practices of care, belonging, and purpose. We provide a gentle, story-driven, and reflective pathway to support individuals and groups in letting go of what no longer serves them, and stepping into more human, honest, and life-giving ways of being together.

Vision

We envision a world where unlearning becomes a shared practice: where people recognize how cultural patterns shape their choices and relationships, and consciously choose new patterns rooted in empathy, accountability, and collective liberation. Through resources, circles, and stories, Steps to Unlearning aims to spark a movement of cultural repair, inviting everyone to remember their wholeness and build systems that honor our shared humanity.

Our Approach

The Steps to Unlearning is rooted in the belief that change begins within, but is sustained together. Our approach weaves together the wisdom from many that have come before us, all held through an anti-oppression and systems-change lens.

We draw inspiration from:

• 12-step recovery traditions, for their deep and commitment to accountability

• Buddhist psychology, with its focus on impermanence, compassion, and non-attachment

• Systems thinking, which reminds us that personal transformation is inseparable from the environments we live in

Our process uses storytelling, small-group practice, and reflective prompts to help participants name and release cultural conditioning. Unlike many trainings, our approach is:

• Cyclical, not linear

• Gentle, not punitive

• Story-driven, not performance-driven

We believe unlearning is remembering who you truly are, beyond fear and domination, and reconnecting to your integrity, purpose, and shared humanity.

Core Values

Emotional Honesty

Telling the truth about what is, without shame

Mutual care

Centering collective wellbeing

Integrity

Aligning our actions with our values

Slowness & presence

Moving at the speed of trust

Anti-oppression

Challenging systems of harm